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After Termination / Abortion Support.

Post termination supportA termination can leave you with a range of feelings such as relief and happiness however you might alternatively feel sadness, regret or loss. In the most extreme cases these feelings can lead to depression, anxiety and/or low self-worth. This can be due to various reasons i.e. rushed the decision to terminate or felt pressurised into it by others. Whatever your reasons it can sometimes leave you needing to talk and explore how you now feel. Some women/men need support very soon after the termination whilst some need counselling possibly years after the event.

We are here to help you work through those feelings and ‘move on’ after your loss by providing a counselling programme that looks at key areas with a view to resolving issues the termination has uncovered

Our Post Termination Recovery Programme is called The Journey and takes a client through the following ten steps in order to address all possible issues –

  • Seeking Help
  • Telling The Story
  • Moving out of Denial
  • Anger & Depression
  • Grief
  • Guilt & Shame
  • Accountability
  • Forgiveness
  • Acceptance & Letting Go
  • The Way Ahead

Normally we would counsel on a one-to-one basis but group work is a possibility should clients wish.

For more information please contact the Centre.

There is hope that any emotional pain caused by a termination can be overcome with support, compassion and time. We are here to help you.

Men & Termination of Pregnancy.

Men and women communicate in different ways. Women place emphasis on first impressions, so a neutral reaction may be seen as a lack of support. This apparent lack of support can just be because her partner needs time to adjust to the situation. Sometimes men can feel left out and that they have no part in making the decision.

If you want to help your partner –

  • Talk to her openly – saying ‘whatever you want’ leaves her with the decision alone. Share the responsibility to choose.
  • Get as much information as possible – about all the options available. Contact support services that can help.
  • Don’t base your decision on the result of one conversation. Your partner will probably be feeling very emotional and tired so be patient.
  • Ask your partner for time to think and reassure her that you aren’t going to abandon her.

An unplanned pregnancy can cause a great deal of tension and stress within a relationship so it is important to be honest and talk things through carefully. Guilt and hurt can drive couples apart especially if one partner is unsure about the decision so enlist the help of our counsellors if you feel they can assist you in exploring the situation more fully.